Saturday, April 21, 2012

In which I explain my aversions to Pinterest...

Aversions. To. Pinterest.

Can those words even go in the same sentence??? I feel like I'm breaking a law somewhere. Surely, in some part of this country, that statement violates some libel law for Pinterest {or at least the unwritten code of ethics for DIY/decorating/inspired Pinterest lovers}.

In an effort to be completely transparent here, I admit that I have a Pinterest account. I also admit that I have logged into said account maybe five times. I could give several reasons as to my absence from the site that is the Holy Grail of Cuteness, but they would all probably seem pretty silly and unworthy to most Pinterest Lovers.

But really? Really those little reasons don't mean much. If I have time to blog, I have time to Pinterest. If I have time to take long bubble baths, I have time to Pinterest. If I have time to get my hair cut and highlighted today, I have time to Pinterest. Right?

It's the two Big Whopper Reasons that have created my aversion to Pinterest.

Discontent and Comparison.

The minute I login to Pinterest, I am greeted with all the nifty projects and ideas of my friends, family, and strangers. And my mind promptly begins to go places I don't want it to go but allow it to anyway.

Discontent raises its fat, ugly head, and I immediately become unsatisfied with my brown leather couch or my wardrobe or the color of my front door or my kids' craft supplies.

Two minutes before, homemade finger paints were the furthest thing from my mind. But now? Now, I am overcome with urgency to run to Hobby Lobby, buy all the necessary materials, and make my children something that all these other moms on Pinterest probably gave their kids months ago. Because those moms are better than me. Because they care more than I do. Because they're craftier. Because... 

Fingerpaints

 The fact that I've been wanting new living room furniture hasn't been fresh on my mind for quite some time now, but then I see this:

Comfy white couch Comfy white couch Comfy white couch

And suddenly, the brown couch on which I sit is so much uglier and less comfortable than it was 10 seconds ago. I need a white couch. Nevermind that I have young children and two dogs and a bad habit of spilling things on myself. Nevermind that the furniture I have is completely fine. I need a new white couch with adorable, shabby chic pillows in ruffly fabric and burlap.

See where I'm going with this?

Now we move on to the second culprit: Comparison.

When I see what my friends and family have pinned on their boards, I wonder, "What if they've already done all those DIY projects? What if their stuff is now cuter than my stuff? What if they're craftier than I am? What if their kids have homemade finger paints and mine still don't? What if...???"

Must put buttons in a beautiful jar

"What if they already have apothecary jars filled with buttons?! I've wanted an apothecary jar filled with buttons for months!"

It sounds so dumb and immature to write it out, but that's where my brain goes.

Pinterest is full of awesomely adorable ideas and inspirations. I wish I had the time and the money to create and re-create half of what I have seen there in my few short visits.

But I don't. And because I don't, I feel discontent and like I don't measure up to the people who do have time and money and creativity that I don't have.

So there you have it. I really felt the need to get that out when I logged into Pinterest for my sixth time ever this afternoon. I enjoy crafting and creating, but I haven't had the time lately. And I've been beating myself up over it. Pinterest hasn't helped me out any.

To all of you Pinterest-ers...keep pinning. I'm for you. Really I am. 


I've been reading an e-book by Michelle Michaels of The Inspired Room called Not a DIY Diva. This book is really challenging me to stop comparing myself to others and to accept my style and what makes my house feel like a home without feeling dissatisfied with it. I really encourage any of you who might even have a hint of what I've got to read it.

She ends her book with this:
Surrounding myself with everyday beauty and finding joy in the simple pleasures of life is a gift I can still give myself. It is not too late ... I hope you’ll begin to find ways to infuse more moments with everyday beauty and grace in the life you have. Your authentic life should be beautiful.
That's where I need to get. Clean or not clean, organized or unorganized, crafty or not crafty, my authentic life IS beautiful. Whether I get to all the DIY projects I intend to or not, I can be content with the blessings in my life today. I can rearrange things I already own for new interest and inspiration. I can love what I have without comparing it to others.

4 comments:

crazy4boys said...

I'm not on Pinterest either....for those very same reasons. One of my friend's husbands calls it 'soft porn for women - because it's a lot of women lusting after things they can't have'. And I'd add, making them feel inferior/poor/unsatisfied/unhappy/etc as well.

While I do want to make my home beautiful and cook great meals and dress all cutesy, I can do that without spending hours and hours looking through ideas. If I have a specific need then I can do a quick online search, but I think the real danger comes when you log on "just to look" and spend hours and hours and hours of your day/week/month and then the dissatisfaction/comparison begins.

Lindsey said...

That is a REALLY good comparison. Shockingly, brutally true, as well. Thank you for sharing that.

Renee said...

I almost cried reading this blog entry. I haven't spent much time on Pinterest, but I often visit CraftGawker.com.

But usually within five minutes of looking at all the amazing, adorable crafts that I would never be able to accomplish, I find myself feeling literally depressed and inadequate. I'm not very naturally "artistic" in the visual sense, but I love all the cute things I see on there. So I have the same issues! Coveting, comparison, etc. I actually thought CraftGawker was just unhealthy for me. But you've made me wonder if this is really a heart issue that I need to take to God in prayer.

Thank you!!

Lindsey said...

@Renee, thank you for your comment. I've been having some weird e-mail issues. I normally respond to comments right away, but I just saw notification of yours. Sorry about that! I am happy to report that I no longer have issues with Pinterest. I really prayed about it, and God showed me that those feelings weren't from Him and that I needed to surrender them. There's nothing wrong with desiring to be creative, and we do what we can as we are able and have time. I sincerely hope you experience the same kind of freedom that I have! And I've never heard of CraftGawker.com. I'll have to check that one out!